I hate men!!!

Its very simple...



Cause all the men that came and are in my life are those who hurts me and kept on hurting me... they just use me to have what they wanted... some left without even saying why and goodbye... some makes my life a living hell... some will make you feel good and when I start feeling good they just drop me just like that without any warning... some continuously give me headaches, problems, troubles and pain... but what hurts most is that they will try there best to make me trust them and some even love them, and then they will start taking advantage on the trust and love you give... then start to change and in the end they will just disappear without a word on why...




I wish you will leave me alone!!! you all waste my love and care for you which you all never appreciated it...



And always...



And as if its not enough...









And now this things runs in my head...

above it all, I realized that no man in my life deserves me, specially my love...

Things I Thought of after my break-up

I broke up with my first boyfriend and it hurts so much specially when he could not even show himself to me to explain why he changed... why we ended like this... The pain is hurtting me so bad... tears just don't stop falling... and as each day goes by this feeling gets worst... and I know this is not becoming heathy for me. I still have a family that needs me and my friends that loves me.

I tried to figure out things on my own. I needed to move on... I need to help myself... which is why I started to get through this painful chapter of my life.

So I decided to list down things I told myself & the advices my family and friends gave me to help me in moving on... Now I want to share this with all those people who needs to move on with thier life after the break-up... I hope this also can help you.

1. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.
2. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
3. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
4. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.
5. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
6. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
7. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
8. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.
9. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
10. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
11. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.
12. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

And I try my best to REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

The Baby Shower

The 2 women in my life who are very close to my heart are now pregnant and as their girl friend I am throwing a baby shower for them. This is to welcome the babies in the world and shower them with love. It’s my first time to prepare such event and I am excited about it.

It’s a great experience where in one is having a baby boy, and the other is having a baby girl. Sounds fun. I want to share with you how I managed my time and budget in planning the baby showers.

In planning a baby shower, the first thing to do is to have a pocket size note book/journal and pen. As I started a lot of ideas was rushing in my head, sometimes ideas comes to me in a middle of a meeting at work or while eating, in ordered not to forget these ideas the pocket note book is very handy to write it down anywhere I go.

I had a short time so I had to make my planning simple and easy. So this is my simplified Baby Shower Plan.

1) Identify the Baby - In my case I got 1 baby boy and 1 baby girl. This is to help get all the things coordinated for the whole event.

2) Budget - This is the tricky part. I don't have an exact value to go around with this. In my pass experience in preparing other kinds of event budget are actually never followed. It always depends on the situation. So the only aim is to spend as low as possible but have everything look nice and presentable. And if you can get some friends to chip in the expenses.

3) Guest List - It will depend on you if you plan to make this baby shower a surprise or not. Baby showers are traditionally for women only. I have preferred mine not, I have to take in consideration that my mommies to be would want specific people to be in this event. As I have known my Mommies to be friends they got lot of very close girl and guy friends so I making the baby shower a co-ed. So I have asked the parents to be to be the one to prepare the guest list.

4) Location, Date and Time - In setting these 3 details you have to consider what would be convenient to the mommies to be. The most practical and continent location would be their home so they don't need to travel especially if the party get late. Which leads in panning the date & time of the event. Saturday would be nice day to set a date so that if she got tired over the event she would still have a Sunday to rest. As it goes for the time... it should be around 5pm or 6pm this is to consider in giving time to the guest who have Saturday work.

5) Theme – One of the best ways to figure out a theme is to ask the mommies to be what they want. If the have nothing to suggest then go with the baby’s gender. The most simply way is Blue for baby boy, and pink for the baby girl. Building a theme would depend on how you need to coordinate the whole event with the theme.

6) Invitations - Made your own or buy ready make are good. Important details must be in.
a) Name of the Guest of Honors (mom & dad to be)
b) Location
c) Date
d) Directions (important)
e) Phone number in case questions
f) RSVP
g) Theme of the party (optional)
h) Dress code (optional)
i) Let the guests know if there is anything they need to bring

7) Decoration - This would depend on the budget you have and the creativity you can do. To save money I made my own decorations out of colored papers and do some cut-outs. List down all the decors you plan to put up.
a) Banner
b) Wall décor
c) Ceiling décor
d) Door wreath / Door sign
e) Centerpiece (Diaper Cake or Blanket Cake)

8) Utensils – To make the preparation easy and cleaning up as well. Its better to have disposables so that cleaning up will be a swift. Remember to prepare the followings:
a) Paper Plate
b) Plastic Cups
c) Plastic Spoon & Fork
d) Plastic Knife (optional)
e) Styro bowl (if your serving soups)
f) Tissue
g) Garbage Bag

9) Menu – It is better to get advice from the mommies to be if there are any food she is not allowed to have. Choose foods that are easy & economical.

10) Games & Entertainment – This is optional. You can have the party a casual one where you leave you guest to mingle around or you can put up some entertainment systems like DVD movies or karaoke systems. Games can be played to. Prepare some games and small prices for the winners.

11) Baby Shower favors / souvenirs – This is optional. If you have the time and the luxury to make or buy its all up to you.

12) Scheduling your set up - This is the most important thing. Set the time table in buying the decor or in creating your own decors, the buying of items for the event, the setting up of the decorations and the food if cooking or ordering caterings.

With all this enjoy the moment you will spend with your mommy & daddy to be and wish them all the best.

Whats a Girl friend?

As many girls may agree with me being a girl itself is a lifetime struggle with life itself.

What is a GIRL? in the dictionary it is simply describe as "a female child" or "a young woman". But to me being a GIRL has become more meaningful as I grew and continue to grow. The one thing which is for sure is that the girl in every woman will never disappear. I know mine is still here and will always be in me.

What is a Friend? this how ever has a broader / wider meaning, some say it means as "A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause", some describes it as "One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group or a cause", while other simply say "Its that someone whom you trust, to be there at time you needed them the most"

Two words that once combines will have unlimited meaning in words and more in the life of the people we touch.

Girl friends to other will automatically thinks is a companion of a boy. A female lover or simply the counter part of a “boyfriend”. But there more to it than other know.

Base on my own definition a girlfriend have a very heavy responsibility to there friends in times of their joys and specially in times of their pains. I am and will always be a shoulder to cry on of my mother, my sister, my brother, my friends boys and girls and of my lover as I am there girl friend other than being there relative or lover or just there friend. I have been the person they run to whenever the needed some advice, or opinion, or just someone to talk to or even there shock absorber. It is sometimes frustrating but its part of life… my life… and at the end of the day the only thing that is guaranteed in this experience is that all this are memorable and each moment is a priceless treasure.